As I was getting ready for work the other morning I was watching Vh1 Soul and the video for a song called "Dealing" by Eric Roberson featuring Lalah Hathaway came on (see video above). The song kind of reminds me of that Shirley Murdock song "As We Lay" in that its about being in a relationship with one person but desiring and carrying on a secret relationship with another person the twist in "Dealings" is that they are asking "Where do we go from here? What do I do with these feelings?" Meaning instead of sending this person back to their significant other I'm contemplating pursuing something more with this person. Now I've never been in this situation per se because I'm not a cheater but I won't deny there has been some mutual attraction with someone who was not my significant other at the time. When there has been recognized mutual chemistry I have done the smart thing and just stayed away from the man at the other end of these affections.
But what if I had given in and indulged my carnal instincts, put my relationship to the side and just went for it? I can guarantee it probably would have felt good at the time but I would have been a guilty
I'm a believer in being faithful and I enjoy being in a monogamous relationship so the idea of going so far as to violate my union and step out with another man is far fetched for me but I know not everyone has the will power I have (I guess that ties into me not wanting to hurt anyone and hence putting others before myself. See that blog here). Do unto others as you would have them do unto you is a motto that I live by. I would never want to inflict upon a significant other the pain and scars that result from being cheated on.
So what say you? Have any of you ever cheated with someone and it grown into a full blown relationship? Are you still with that person and if not how/why did it end? Have you ever been cheated on and then your SO left you for the person they cheated with?
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